Dear Therapist Within:
My friend Sarah, 20, used to be a really nice, college going girl. She dropped out and now is doing drugs and drinking very frequently. My friends keep wanting to have an intervention but we do not know how. We thought that maybe we should involve her parents, but they were the ones that kicked her out of her house to begin with after dropping out. Any tips? She’s genuinely a good girl but she just has strayed from her path.
ANSWER: I applaud you for caring enough for your friend, and I do think an intervention might be helpful in this situation. I see no reason not to involve her parents. I am sure they kicked her out as an attempt at “tough love,” as a way to try to shock her into changing her ways. If I were you, I would approach her parents to see how they might respond to the idea of an intervention (that might also give you a better view of their motivations and degree of caring for their daughter) and to find out what kind of treatment alternatives are possible. I would also attend a few narcotics anonymous meetings and find out if anyone there had ever done an intervention, and what resources they used. If you need additional help, call the Community Resources and Referral hot line in your city and get some help there on how to plan and execute a successful intervention.
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