My boyfriend is angry with his parents. Could he take it out on me someday?

Posted on April 30th, 2011 by turmoiltotranq

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Dear Therapist Within,

My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year and 6 months.  When he was a child he was moved around a lot because his parents lived separately and were never married.  He has anger issue with both parents but so far has never taken it out on me.  Whenever he gets mad in the future could he get angry with me? Could this affect our future?

ANSWER:  Well, I would watch and wait.  None of us goes into relationships without “baggage,” but until he resolves his anger issues, it is possible.  If I were you I would simply listen attentively when he tells you about his anger at his parents, encourage him to express his feelings and get them out. See whether or not the number of times, and the frequency with which he raises the issues doesn’t diminish. 

At the same time, note what he does when he is stressed out, when life is tough, when he might feel a bit abandoned.  If he does “take it out on you,” talk to him about it and see how he reacts.  In time you will know how he responds in a variety of stressful situations and be better able to judge – and better able to know whether or not it is safe to move forward with the relationship.

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